Archive for June, 2013

Gay marriage … and God! (Part 1)

Whether you call yourself straight, gay, bisexual, trans-sexual, or you are just not sure, let me tell you that Jesus loves you!

Maybe you’re seeking something new and refreshing! Life seems dull unless you’re partying the night away! You seek pleasure and fulfillment in; sex, relationships, wealth, alcohol and maybe drugs. Whatever your life’s circumstances you are searching for something that brings long-lasting satisfaction. This kind of contentment can only be found in God.

God loves you. He loves you so much! He knows your every need and desire. He knows how you feel. Every thought and feeling, every motive of the heart, God knows it! God sees you, knows you and loves you! God accepts you and invites you to know him through Jesus Christ his Son!

It’s no wonder that many people are reluctant to come to Jesus when all they hear from Christians is what they must and must not do and how they should and shouldn’t live. It seems like they have to give everything up and where is the sense in that? But seriously people if you want to know God then the first thing you need to know is that he loves you and knows what is best for you. He is a loving Father (many of you may not know what that means if you have had a distant or abusive dad). He doesn’t want to take anything from you, he wants to give you an abundant life.

There has been a lot in the news lately about ‘gay marriage’. So i felt that as a Christian woman who has a past life (been there done that and got the t-shirt), that i may have something to offer on this subject.

Firstly let me tell you that i have experienced a very intimate, loving relationship with another woman that lasted nine years. We were very close to the point where we often knew what the other was thinking and feeling. But as was often the case in my life i was not satisfied and was seeking something else. So i moved on. There was always something missing, something more to know, something more to find out and experience. My life was full of experiences, fun and adventure. But deep down i felt empty, alone, unknown and dissatisfied. That is until Jesus came. He poured his love into my heart and filled me with joy and peace. The experience was so huge that i was brought to my knees. Since then i have had an on-going relationship with God that is all-transforming and renewing! It was God that i was seeking all those years before, i just never knew it!

I have reflected on the relationship i had with this other woman as i felt a great loss when we separated. God has done a lot of healing in this area of my life since. Through meditating on God’s word and looking closely at the relationship i had had with her, i have come to these conclusions. This is my personal view on what i believe God says about ‘gay marriage’.

Our bodies were created male and female and are designed naturally to fit one another in the area of the genitals so that we may pro-create and multiply.


“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground.” – Genesis 1:27-28 (NIV).


“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female’, and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” – Matthew 19:4-6.

God says that we must love one-another, in-fact he commands it. But love and lust are two different things. Sex is meant for marriage and when we lust for anyone other than our marriage partner, we sin ‘we have already committed adultery with them in our hearts’ – (Matt.5:28). Now some of you may say that is the point. You don’t want to be sinning against God by lusting so marriage seems like the right answer. But in both the old and the new testament God says that same-sex relationships grieve him:


“If a man lies with a man as one lies with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They must be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.” – Leviticus 20:13.

Now before you go off on one about the above quote it is important that you know that this applied to adultery and other sexual sins. The penalty was death for us all from the moment Adam and Eve sinned. We all sin and deserve death in accordance with a holy God, but thanks be to Jesus Christ that he has taken the penalty of our sins upon himself, on the cross. He died that we might live.


“Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshipped and served created things rather than the Creator – who is ever praised. Amen.
Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one-another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion.” – Romans 1:24-27.

We are being deceived and trying to explain away things so that they fit our wants, desires and life-style:

“When tempted, no-one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.” – James 1:13-15.

It is good and right to love others no matter what their gender, sexual preference, race, religion, background and life-style. God loves us all the same and so we should love others. It is our acts that are sinful which come from wrong motives of the heart and deception in our knowledge, belief and understanding.

Marriage is a union in the presence of God, according to God’s desire and word. If you take God’s truth out of the situation and then ask for his blessing, you are asking him to contradict himself.

I am not here to judge you. I understand the desire to marry the one you love and lust after but i love God more and what he says is right and true. Ask yourself ‘Is this consistent with God’s word?’ We all have genuine needs to be met but are we allowing Jesus to meet them or are we trying to meet them in our own ways?
‘Is what you are doing honouring God?’ I am sure that we can all say that at times we dishonour God in the things we do but by God’s grace we can come to him in repentance, confess and receive forgiveness. But if we choose to live a way of life that is in direct rebellion to God’s word, how then can we be repentant?


“Repentance is a change of mind that leads to a change of heart, which leads to a change of life.” – Pastor Mark Driscoll.

I am thankful to God that he gives us guidance on these matters and i pray that what i have said here has been said in love and truth. I also welcome other people’s views on this matter. This has been my own view on the subject of ‘gay relationships’ and what i believe God says about such relations.

Whatever happens, know that God loves you and desires that you love him. We love him by being obedient to what he asks of us. If you truly love God then i would suggest you seek him yourself for answers and allow the Holy Spirit to guide you into all truth.

Thanks for taking the time to read this. I pray that God will bless you and guide you into truth.

(Genesis 1:27-28)

Below is a link to a book on the subject of same-sex relations and God’s word.



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